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Love this, and saving it as a guide for my own fuck-it list. I’m 69, so It will be very similar to yours. My #1 would apply to your un-subs with the vapors over the most versatile word in our language. “Fuck ‘em if they can’t take a joke”!

The chuck-it list is brilliant, I’ve always kept a list in my head of things I should let go of, but never had a title. Saw a t-shirt in a meeting once that hit me between the legs, “Anything I ever let go of had claw marks all over it”. If I’m honest, those old resentments are like treasured toys, fun to drag out and play with now and then. Dangerous ground for me. Today I will write them down. Then I’ll deal with them one at a time. Serenity is the reward.

Personally I don’t like the idea of a bucket list. Like you, I’ve had a life of wide and varied experiences. Things I never dreamed of doing just happened, almost always as a result of being involved in something that for me was just the next right thing. Most of the best events in my life were unplanned. I trust serendipity, and that’s the opposite of a list.

Thanks Dee, for making me think. Bless you and yours.

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Donna McArthur's avatar

Brilliant!

The thing about this title and the first line is that they will stick in my mind forever (well done Dee!) which makes them very useful.

What do you mean you're never going to drive a Subaru! You need to come to BC where Suby's and Tacomas are in every second driveway and we love it like that🤣🤣🤣 Seriously, I was howling at that list of vehicles, having owned almost all of them! Haha.

So about these lists...I love the idea of taking the time to think this through, especially the chuck it list. This essay came at a time when I am circling the wagons and needing to recalibrate and what a better way to do that then with a lesson from my good buddy Dee. Thank you.

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