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What a powerful process to engage in. The name, the letters, the funeral make saying good-bye so much more tangible. Thank you for sharing this excellent tool.

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You’re welcome Donna. I learned it from the best. 🙏

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A very beautiful "rumination" Dee 🙏🏼

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25 years ago at a friend's wedding the name plate that marked my seat at the table said, "Lush". It took me 20 years to realise that that nickname weighed far heavier on the sad side of the humour see-saw than on the funny side. Lush is dead and buried now too. I'm not angry with her. She was sad and clueless and the worst harm she did was to herself. I hope Larry and Lush are looking down on us now and feeling secretly proud of us for surviving them.

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Thanks Michelle. I understand. Larry was a hoot to my friends for awhile too. You’re a little kinder and gentler to Lush than I am to Larry. I hope he’s turning over trapped in his grave at the sound of his voice. ☺️

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May he rest in an endless loop of his own drunken shenanigans 😊

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😂 yes

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Oct 17Liked by Dee Rambeau

What an intensely beautiful way to be done with Larry.

I love this more than I can express, and I send out love to the witnesses to the burial. Their responses were perfect.

It’s my belief that we each have a Larry lurking somewhere within us, and the sooner we locate it, heal it ad release it, the more we have compassion for ourselves and humanity as a whole.

Many hugs Dee (please have Ann administer these liberally)

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Thank you Teyani. I appreciate your loving comment so much. Ann is showering me—as today is the one year anniversary of the day I proposed and she said YES. ❤️

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Larry must’ve been in a lot of pain. Thank you, Dee, for sharing.

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Not after I killed him he wasn’t 😂

You’re 100% right Priya—and examining and healing from that has been the whole of my recovery.

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Oct 17Liked by Dee Rambeau

As I hung up the phone with my own general this article pops up ! What a great read and reminder. Our discussion started on narcissist as a main social media trigger point of late and this perfectly describes that war we go through as alcoholic/addicts and the importance of acknowledging our alter ego.

Thanks for a great reminder and validation 🙏❤️

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Hey Justin thanks for reading. Cool that you have a General 😎

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Oct 17Liked by Dee Rambeau

Blessed to have one. The perspective from the other side has helped me grow and change in incredible ways.

Look forward to reading more.

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