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This is good stuff my friend, and I live for provocative titles :) God bless your very important work in this space my friend.

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Thanks David. 🙏

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Love this Dee.

My personal struggle has always been with nicotine, but as a nurse I can tell you that alcohol is the most deadly and destructive force on the planet. ETOH Withdrawal is no joke and neither are the DT’s, it literally kills people every day. So please be very damn proud of yourself for being sober for 15 years. ❤️

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Thanks K. I am grateful for my journey—all aspects of it—both the dark and the light. 🙏

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To tell you the truth, well said, Dee 😎

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I see what you did there 😎

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I’m 6 months away from 6 years of sobriety after 25 years of failing to manage my alcohol use.

Drinking is something that you can put 100,000 hours into practicing and still suck at it.

I have no kill-switch built in, it just never got wired.

After deciding one morning that I never wanted to be hungover and wondering what happened the night before again, I spent nearly 3 months white-knuckling sobriety before taking advantage of an opportunity made possible to me by my previous employer.

(Yes, those stories are intertwined.)

Everything you say resonates and makes sense, and I love hearing it.

It does get easier.

The doubts evaporate.

Your strength builds from within.

Thank you for sharing.

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Thanks James. I appreciate your comment and your experience. I’d love to hear more some day. I too am missing the brake—all I got was a quick accelerator pedal. ☺️

Congrats on the days—that’s massive.

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A solid piece, Dee, and a happy note to strike when you've reached that place of stability. I'm not an authority about any of this, but there is another side of the coin for some: https://substack.com/home/post/p-144173368

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To be sure. I hope I made it clear that this path is not for everyone. We don’t celebrate the successes of sobriety enough—but we certainly document the failures and struggles to a great degree.

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Pretty much all around good advice for everything.

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Same, Dee. I also find sobriety easy (these days). Like many things: it comes down to a simple choice, and we already know the answer.

And, as with many things, I think it’s easy (and seductive) to create more complication and struggle than actually needs to be there. I think that too can be addictive.

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what you share is your strength and humility. I respect these things about you.

Grace is a wonderful experience. I’ve received it too, and I’ll never know “why”. It simply is, isn’t it.

I love the title of your post.. sobriety is easy… because a person can opt for one powerful choice, to not pick up. Continuing to make that same choice over and over takes a person with heart and character. 💞

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Thank you so much my friend. The gift of Grace makes it possible to now make those daily choices 🙏

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