An excellent post Dee, thank you. Also, I love your tagline which I think is new. Well done!
I appreciate the nudge to grab Rubin's book, it's been on my list for ages. I also liked how you tied this back to your business life, love and the ability to change.
I love your term BGO's! I agree, they seem so obvious in retrospect but until we see them they can't be found, no matter how hard we search. All we can do is lay the trail of breadcrumbs and hope a BGO comes looking for us. I find it tricky when I'm in the WANTING stage, looking for that BGO, almost trying to actively hunt it down which, clearly, we know does not work and usually creates the opposite effect.🤔 (that emoji is called 'thinking face' in case, like me, you did not know).
Yes the hunt often nullifies the effect. Almost as if there’s a wall built by the wanting that keeps the inspiration out. Thank you Donna. I love your thinking face 🤭
I like this framework. I often have these sorts of rather dull epiphanies (I mean dull for other people looking in from the outside, not for me!). It's not always easy to keep that feeling going, so I get why Rubin suggests ways to try to extend that time surrounding the moment, possibly even to create conditions within which such an event might occur.
Reviewing this comment again Andrew. Rubin has so many useful ideas in his book. I think many are unreachable unless you do try to create those conditions. 🙏
I like how you celebrate BGOs. I’ve had interactions on social media w/ a well-known psychoanalyst who would typically use sarcasm when I would make these kinds of observations. Needless to say I lost respect for that otherwise brilliant psychoanalyst.
An excellent post Dee, thank you. Also, I love your tagline which I think is new. Well done!
I appreciate the nudge to grab Rubin's book, it's been on my list for ages. I also liked how you tied this back to your business life, love and the ability to change.
I love your term BGO's! I agree, they seem so obvious in retrospect but until we see them they can't be found, no matter how hard we search. All we can do is lay the trail of breadcrumbs and hope a BGO comes looking for us. I find it tricky when I'm in the WANTING stage, looking for that BGO, almost trying to actively hunt it down which, clearly, we know does not work and usually creates the opposite effect.🤔 (that emoji is called 'thinking face' in case, like me, you did not know).
Yes the hunt often nullifies the effect. Almost as if there’s a wall built by the wanting that keeps the inspiration out. Thank you Donna. I love your thinking face 🤭
I call them Aha moments. I believe an insurance company did an advertising campaign around this phrase once.
I like this framework. I often have these sorts of rather dull epiphanies (I mean dull for other people looking in from the outside, not for me!). It's not always easy to keep that feeling going, so I get why Rubin suggests ways to try to extend that time surrounding the moment, possibly even to create conditions within which such an event might occur.
Reviewing this comment again Andrew. Rubin has so many useful ideas in his book. I think many are unreachable unless you do try to create those conditions. 🙏
Well said, Dee. I enjoy reading your writing.
Thanks Vick ❤️
Thanks. Reminds me that I’m not a human doing, I’m a human being.
What a BGO!
I like how you celebrate BGOs. I’ve had interactions on social media w/ a well-known psychoanalyst who would typically use sarcasm when I would make these kinds of observations. Needless to say I lost respect for that otherwise brilliant psychoanalyst.
Another excellent piece Dee! And the BGO I recognized ~ I Can Change and I HAVE. I am no longer damaged and broken. I am Perfectly Human.
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Love that. Thank you ❤️